One of the greatest lessons I have ever learned is that times of sorrow or pain do NOT equal a time of failure.
Pain and sorrow is the ONLY thing that will force us to STOP and consider our lives. This is a GIFT. It doesn’t feel good to receive it, but what we do with it is what can make all of the difference in the quality of our lives.
Many experience pain and sadness and immediately label it as “BAD” or as some sign of failure and doom. Many more go into “victim-mode”, immediately pointing fingers at the world around them, blaming something outside of themselves for the perceived wrongdoing.
The POWERFUL ones embrace that life is all about what THEY make it and they maintain full responsibility for their experience of life on this planet. They take a deep breath, acknowledge that the pain sucks and THEN turn their full focus on the lesson and the growth (the gift) to be received…
How else would we ever change for the better if we didn’t get this push to go deeper?
Next time you experience pain or sadness, consider the opportunity in front of you to go deeper; to learn more. See if any of these questions can lead you to your gift…
What am I doing that may have resulted in this?
Why I am I doing it?
Is it serving me?
Is it serving others?
Is there something I need to change in my life to allow more of what I want and less of what I don’t?
And for those of you who have experienced tragic and painful loss –
What can I learn from this?
How can I be more vs. less as a result of this?
How can my pain and my experience bring comfort and help to another?
How can I bring meaning to this senseless tragedy to BE MORE, to GIVE MORE, to make sure this horrible thing wasn’t in vain…to have it be a beacon of light and hope for others?
I hope this is helpful for some of you. Pain is NO FUN, but if you insist on USING IT as a tool to improve yourself and your future, your life will never be the same again.